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There are different reasons for this:
- Fantasizing about the end result instead of realizing the adjustments we'll have to make to achieve that slimmer figure.
- Expecting too much, too soon.
- Feeling uncomfortable and deprived by our new behavior.
Imagine how much easier it would be for you to fit in that morning workout, if you were sincerely committed to your health. When your commitment muscles are soft and weak, then you're far likelier to give up on a goal when challenged.
Often times, we latch onto a goal with excitement and enthusiasm but with flabby commitment muscles. When our excitement declines and our commitment is required, we perform poorly. After all, if you're used to lifting 15 lbs, how can you instantly be expected to lift 5 times that amount? Likewise, with your commitment muscles, if you're used to having a jiggly, "just getting-by" level of commitment in life, then it's going to feel uncomfortable to suddenly have a firm, high-achiever's commitment level.
Here's my still-in-the-lab workout on this commitment. I'm currently in Week 1. My suggestion is that before you begin your most challenging goals, you do your commitment workout first and then take baby steps with the goal. Remember to set yourself up for success, not failure. Please note, if your goal is to end an addictive behavior, be sure to consult with a professional about this. This post is not an excuse for someone to continue their smoking habit.
The Easy Commitment WorkoutWeek 1
In the mornings, write the following:
I commit. (3 times)
I keep my commitments. (3 times)
When you're tempted to give up on something, remind yourself that you keep your commitments.Week 2
Appreciate that you kept Week 1's commitment. If you were unable to finish Week 1, appreciate what you did and then go back to Week 1 before moving onto Week 2.
In the mornings, write this phrase:I keep my commitment to ________. (3 times)
Leave the sentence incomplete. Do not complete that blank. I'll explain later why that sentence is unfinished.
Stay posted for Week 3...
Please note that I'm strengthening my commitment muscle, also, so I am not in any way claiming to be a commitment guru. : ) There are some activities that I've committed to, like flossing my teeth and getting more green veggies and other activities were my commitment has been lagging. Often times, my posts are inspired by my own experiences or challenges.
To your growth in the New Year!