Single With Benefits: The Benefits of Being Single for the Holidays

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I am single because I was born that way.

Mae West

Soon, I'll prop some holiday cards around my place to make it more holiday-ish.  Currently, my abode looks about the same as it did in summer with the exception of the re-appearance of my portable heater.  Over the last few days, I've been thinking about the benefits of being single/alone during the holidays.  Here, in brief are some of the benefits that have roamed through my mind:

1.  Freedom to deck the halls as one chooses.  You can display holidays cards, a wreath, or nothing at all.

2.  No doubt about who's eaten the holiday leftovers.  When living on your own you know who ate the last slice of pie.

3.  Instead of waiting for someone to buy you a certain gift, you can buy it for yourself.

4.  More money to spend on yourself for a gift.

5.  Free to flirt without residual guilt.

6.  Can design your own holiday tradition.  Perhaps you can go to the movies, read all day, enjoy a day spa, map out your plans for next year, or window shop.

7.  Less stress about which holiday gathering to attend.

What additional singular benefits can you think of?  If you enjoy spending the holidays alone, what suggestions would you give to those spending the holidays alone for the first time?  Feel free to post a question or comment below.  Your feedback is appreciated. 

Are You A Relationship Coach?

It was funny thing but a few days ago when I googled "life coaching+singles" or "life coaching for singles," most of the results which came up weren't life coaching but relationship coaching.  While scrolling through the well-intended sites, I got the feeling that being single was some kind of odious sickness that a person had to be cured of.  On her website, Coach Yvonne Chase even humorously uses the tagline of "You're single, not sick.  Enjoy the ride." to remind potential clients to lighten up about being single. 

And she's right:  You're not sick or in need of curing.  You're simply a single person who has her own unique issues whether it's balancing life, setting boundaries with friends & family members, practicing self care, or even managing your dating life. 

My desire with A Singular Life is to coach people who are single or living single (in a relationship but live separately) as they are.  I'm not a relationship coach and you're more than your relationship status. Some singles do want to be in relationship, some do not.

Alas, whether you're single or living single, start now to celebrate your status and appreciate the singular person that you are!

Have a question or comment?  Feel free to post a comment below.  Coaching?  Send an e-mail to asingulalife@yahoo.com for a unique complimentary session.